No boardroom, No bedroom? Keeping Sex Alive After the Layoff

Unemployment is a blow to the finances, but it's also a shot to self-esteem and romance as well. Losing one's job can also cause a loss of sex drive that can damage a strained relationship even more.

Understand sexual desires can be threatened - The suddenly unemployed can feel a loss of sexual prowess. The other partner can also feel a shift in romantic feelings as they can become secretly resentful. Understanding that sexual desires can be threatened and tested can help prepare you both. Renew the passion for each both physically and emotionally. Keep words of both encouragement and lust coming.

Communicate about your sex life - Talk, talk and talk. The more communication, the more you'll both stay on each other's mind and in each other's mental bedroom.

Explore new sexiness - Job loss often means time gained. Use it for self-discovery and sexual discovery. Use this time for exercise and health while gaining new levels of energy and sexuality. Consider new fantasies or old fantasies never fulfilled. Think about role playing or wearing sexy clothing (or no clothing) when the working spouse comes through the door!

Keep having sex - Often when unemployed, one's focus can completely turn to job-hunting. While that is a good thing, focusing on getting work is only healthy if its balanced out with the good things in life: like sex. Don't forget the nurture the relationship, including the sexual part of it. Date like the old days or date low-key because of money. Flirt, touch and keep up the physical parts of your relationship.

Renew You: Recycling Together

Relationships mean a lot of things done together. We live together. We grow together. We love together. As we, as a planet, are ever trying to move more towards a greener society, being in a relationship can also mean we recycle together. Reusing, renewing and recycling as a couple not only works on those bonds between us but helps us do our part for the environment. When we're recycling, we should review if we're really getting all the items that could be reused.

Consider recycling the following items when going green: * Used spaghetti sauce bottles * Plastic enclosures for pop cans * Cardboard bottoms for pop cans * Plastic containers for deli bought cookies and muffins * Used shampoo bottles * Used coffee cans * Aluminum foil rolls * Used spray bottles * Empty beer bottles * Used wine coolers * Empty cleaning containers (plastics, metal and glass)

Recycling is a constant effort that not only strengthens our environment but, when done as a couple, can strengthen our relationship. Give each other that gold star when one of you makes that extra effort to recycle. Flirt and be sexy as you gather up your bins of cans and plastic! Work together as you two both strive to help make the world a better place for your children and yourselves.

Zeta Tau Alpha Won Fair And Square

I am SO disappointed in the reaction that has erupted since the ladies of Zeta Tau Alpha: Epsilon chapter won the Sprite Step-Off Challenge - the largest national step competition in the history. This competition is a big deal!! Step competitions like this are usually battled out by the black Greek-letter fraternities and sororities that many have grown to love. Well, this time around, a white sorority from the University of Arkansas stomped their competition on the way to victory, and some people aren't happy. Check these girls out!!




They won fair and square! But I'm hearing rebuttals like, "Those steps weren't original," "They don't know the history of steppin'", and the best one yet, "Black organizations were formed because the white ones wanted to keep us out, and now they want to take this from us too!" Good heavens!


On one hand we want the world to accept and embrace our culture, and on the other we want to isolate those who are different from us. I watched that step show three times and NEVER got bored with the Zeta's routine! If a black sorority came out and executed that EXACT routine and won, there wouldn't be a problem. The fact that these girls are white should not negate the amazing work they put out there. If you have a problem with it, then step up your own game for next time.


This is so hypocritical!The largest stepping competition in the nation's history gave this sorority a chance to embrace a culture that is traditionally black; the art is sweeping the nation; a white sorority claimed first prize for the girls, and instead of celebrating diversity; instead of being proud that something dominated by blacks has now spread to other ethnicities; instead of being happy that we have led the way; instead of welcoming these girls, we rather get racial.


This is sad. Can you imagine if a black skier were to win gold in a Winter Olympic event and whites raised a ruckus about it because he was black? I could hear it now: "His color shouldn't matter;" "He won fair and square;" "They're just mad because we took their sport and did it better than them;" "Just because he's black doesn't mean he can't ski..." Man, blacks would be pissed! Jesse Jackson would come out in full swing demanding an apology. There would be hell to pay because the statements were RACIST.

We have a similar situation here. So WHAT if the winners were white? SO WHAT? Those girls were the underdogs and still came out to prove that they could do this. If anything we should be celebrating that! After all, we know what it's like to be that underdog and to want to be accepted. You can't have it both ways guys. Racist statements are racist statements ... period.

Finally, if this was such an issue, why were they allowed to compete? That was okay until they won. Well, in the words of the MC at the end of Zeta Tau Alpha's step routine, "Steppin' is for everybody. If you can step ... you can step."

Looks like Zeta Tau Alpha can step. Get over it!